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Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
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Copyright: Ay Da (chiaraluna) Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 421 W: 90 N: 411] (1897)
Genre: People
Medium: Black & White
Date Taken: 2005-03
Categories: Pets, Friends/Family, Mood, Portrait
Camera: Toshiba PDR-4300
Exposure: f/5.6, 1/2 seconds
Details: Tripod: Yes
More Photo Info: [view]
Photo Version: Original Version
Theme(s): sweet SINS of our LIFE, SEX - all censored of course;) [view contributor(s)]
Date Submitted: 2005-08-12 8:44
Viewed: 3420
Favorites: 1 [view]
Points: 64
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no my friends.. I haven't disappeared completely! only been plunged into a series of difficulties forcing me to be sadly absent from my lovely TL family as well as practically everything else meaningful to me… let's just say it's true what Murphy's Law says… if anything can go wrong it will! … I'll spare you all the details but I've had to deal with so many bombshells and changes of plans in the last weeks that it's become totally ridiculous and so exhausting…

a little update for those wondering where on earth I am now.. unfortunately the plan of going to california with Bodmin to stay with my mother after having to leave my apartment is now off do to difficulties she is having… so until I'm well enough to begin my adventure in italy I have no where to live… right now I'm staying at my fathers house and using his computer to write this but I don’t have my own internet connection or access to my files and photographs and I'm not very comfortable using his... so communication is almost impossible and has been for several weeks do to my internet breaking down at my old house too which has sadly stopped me not only from critiquing and replying here but also writing or replying to any of my dear friends who have written to me by e-mail… I'm so sorry for this sweeties and I hope so much to be able to write to everyone soon! but I thought the quickest way to send a message to everyone was to post something and I chose a shot from Pbase which felt appropriate… I took it ages ago when taking my "Hopeless Longing Of The Day" shot but of course the main difference from that one is the presence of my beautiful cuddle muffin & bed bug Bodmin in the lower corner as he 'helps' me in his usual way… so aside from this being dedicated to all of you whom I miss so much and of course as ever to a certain man whom I miss 'da impazzire'… this is also dedicated to my precious prince Bodmin who I'm forcibly separated from as my fathers wife wont let cats into her house and I have nowhere else I can stay….. and it's making me so sad!!…. poor baby.. he hates it so much when we're apart and it breaks my heart to be without him… :-( he is such a comfort and friend to me… so I'm desperately trying to think of alternatives so we don't have to be separated for the entire time until october when the plan is to move to italy together… and in the mean time a lovely friend has offered to take care of him so I'll be able at least to see and cuddle him from time to time… just hope he doesn’t get sad and stressed by all this… he's suffered enough in his short life… so please send all your best hopes and wishes to my beautiful brave Bodmin as he and I await our reuniting! :-)

well.. it's 7am and I haven't yet slept so I must go and collapse now… I miss all of you and your work so much and cant wait to be able to be back among you!

Big big hugs from me to everyone..

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  • Saiz Gold Star Critiquer [C: 909 W: 0 N: 0] (0)
  • [2005-08-12 8:59]

oh oh !!!
Voici le retour de notre femme fatale et de la photographie sur soie …
Le B&W vous sied à merveille Ayda, et le jeu d’ombre sur cette mise en scène donne beaucoup de volupté à l’ensemble de la prise de vue …
Bravo !!!

A great picture Ayda! And well used in the situation. I wish you the best of luck. What can I say? If all the badlucks were with you now it's sure the only thing that can come is the best! I am sure that Bodmin is thinking about you as much as you do about him. And when you will be together it will be happiness and all that will be just memories. Have a great day! And thanks for sharing both your feelings and talent!

I read you are waiting to be well to start THE adventure in Italy.... this is very interesting.... finaly you are approaching Italy.... ;-)))
This B&W is so strong and detailed and in balance between dark and light thta gives a strange feeling... above all your attitude, as you are waiting an answer...
Well done my friend

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  • lol Gold Star Critiquer/Silver Workshop Editor [C: 63 W: 10 N: 3] (434)
  • [2005-08-12 9:26]

Hi Ayda,
Great b&w shot...
It will not be complicated to be near you during this sad period if you continue to post so beautiful pictures...

After reading this, I think all my points will go to your notes. (sniff! sniff!). I don't even want to think about the pain I'dfeel should Tinka and I be seperated. Hope you life settles down soon, and also your health problems. As for Bodmin, I am sure he is in a friendly home with lots of love and nuturing.
The photo is great, especially the lighting and composition. I will miss shots of your bed with that nice flowing drape now you have mooved.

I miss you girl ;-)
Great photo, but I've already told you that. Hang in there, we'll wait for you.
Big hugs from sunny Portugal, just for you ;-)


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  • padre Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor [C: 1419 W: 90 N: 263] (4035)
  • [2005-08-12 9:33]

A very lovely image Ayda. I feel for your circumstances and know that we will be thinking about you. B

  • Suh (0)
  • [2005-08-12 9:37]

best wishes Ayda - and for Italy
hope it changes your life in every good way possible
i feel a certain envy for your going...

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  • zto Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Workshop Editor/Silver Note Writer [C: 916 W: 122 N: 24] (14)
  • [2005-08-12 9:43]

Hi sweetie, so good to see some news from you. *big hug* I truly hope your difficulties will change to teh better soon and that you will be ready to begin the adventure in Italy. Keeping my fingers crossed for you girl...remeber the viking in you, she is strong ;-)


very nice composition
good control of light and shadows
thanks for sharing

This is a good conducted and well executed photo. I can’t find weak parts except the lady. BEAUTIFUL. Yes in capital letters.

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  • chrisJ Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 4430 W: 637 N: 9632] (55124)
  • [2005-08-12 10:37]

Hi Ayda

A very informative note. I like the graphism & subtle sensuality of the woman. Well done!

Hi Ayda,
Sorry to hear your plans went south. Just hope you can make due with what you have for now. Just remember...there's always Italy! I'll be happy for you when you can finally go home.
Take care!

Nice to see you back Ayda, and with a classic low key portrait. Quite suggestive and very mysterious. Terrific composition and great use of black and white to emphasise the light and shade. TFS


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  • Maru Gold Star Critiquer [C: 471 W: 0 N: 0] (0)
  • [2005-08-12 14:44]

Hi Ayda,
it was just this morning that I was thinking about you and your photograph...
I hope everything gets a better way for you and your loved Bodmin :-)
big big hugs,

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  • nova Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 2441 W: 250 N: 873] (8693)
  • [2005-08-12 18:32]

I am so glad to see you back,Ayda! Hoping for you that everything will come back in order soon! Your life appears to be a real puzzle! Very nice photo as usual,sensual and awesome! Beautiful light! Big hugs,little princess! See you soon! Michel

Ayda, Thanks for sharing another very moving image and message. I love the tones and contrasts. The point of light on the bedpost is a great accent. Lighting for the mood is perfect! My prayers are with you and your loved ones. TFS

Hi Ayda!
It's so good to see another photo from you here on TL.
Bodwin is so nice! you must be missing him lots! just wait and you see, everything will be alright!
So you are moving to Italy, I didn't know. Are you going to work there? I hope it will be great.

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  • yttt Gold Star Critiquer [C: 263 W: 9 N: 3] (2127)
  • [2005-08-13 11:17]

your works are very orginal, i love your own style

very good photo.. take care and good luck for u... thanks for sharing the photo and feelings.. the photo really expressive and great!

I hope everything is going better for you. I hate being in a state of limbo, not knowing what is going to happen drives me insane.
Great photo, very sensual. The lighting is great, it looks great in B&W. At the risk of sounding strange...I love your bedroom shots!!

H Sweetie,

First of all, we do miss you terribly ;) And we wait anxioulsy for your come back.
As for the image, beautifful portrait of a lovely person. Shadows are dark, but I think if fits the mood of the scene. And your work is brilliant as always. Very well cared and nice PP was done here.
And be strong my dearest. Time flies fast and in no time youar e gonna come to Warm and lovely Italy. Just be brave and keep your dreams up

Huge PB hugs for you Sweetie (I wouldn't dare to send you any other kind of hug ;))
And be well


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  • letr Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 1134 W: 420 N: 1093] (6670)
  • [2005-08-17 13:12]

hope everything wil be all right for you in the future Ayda , like the picture , looks very sensual and well balanced , excellent work !!

Hi Ayda, As I browsing in your photos I can admit that you know how to make artistic self-portraits. This one's beautiful, very nice and sensual..

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  • NINIX Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 249 W: 128 N: 530] (6690)
  • [2005-08-19 15:41]
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Hi Ayda,

I discovered your work by a critique of Tomasz. There are every day so many on this site that you need some luck.
Realy professional work. High quality.

Hope you get the real world back on the track again to invest your energy in your talents!



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  • edie Gold Star Critiquer [C: 659 W: 0 N: 0] (0)
  • [2005-08-21 7:12]

Tender and sensual as you are my dear,I love your way to show femminity and mood.
Scusami ma son senza punti,tornerò per questo,intanto risponderò presto alla tua mail,bacioni.

Great big hugs to you my dear friend. I too have been so absent from here, a life full is a life well lived, but leaves little time for such persuauts as here...

By my love goes out to you my friend, I will try to post a new shot here myself... :)

*kisses* Francis

Big hugs...we miss you and hope you´´ll be back and happy soon :)
take good care,

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  • LuciG Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 1206 W: 151 N: 655] (8171)
  • [2005-09-09 18:26]


Nice to see your back with another perfect shot!
It's just amazing the way you handle with a camera!


Simply beautiful.
It’s elegant and classy.
It's perfect in black and white
Thanks for sharing it Ayda ;)

Hi Ayda, long time I dont hear from you...
You come back with such a sensual shot, which really makes me wonder about you.
I find great the contrast and some shadows on the wall.

Take care


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  • Mitra Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor [C: 1153 W: 70 N: 1116] (16)
  • [2005-12-31 1:46]

Great B&W Shot.

Another fantastic and sensual shot with another original composition and point of view. Again, great colours and nice sharp image. Keep up the good work!!

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  • galba Gold Star Critiquer [C: 53 W: 0 N: 0] (0)
  • [2006-02-24 6:31]

The user Baltar recommended to me to watch your photos, and I am really very good, this likes specially.
A beautiful image, excellent composition. Congratulations for your work and thanks to share it with all we.

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